Psychopathic Smear Campaigns:

Psychopath Victims

An online public users support group for victims of psychopaths or sociopaths.

February 5, 2014.

One of the dead giveaways of psychopathic behavior is that of the vicious, psychotic character assassination campaigns that are wielded against anyone who stand in their way or might pose a threat to their agenda(s).

Please keep in mind that if you have become the targeted victim of a psychopath’s smear campaign, that it is nothing personal. In fact, nothing can ever be seen as “personal” to a predatory psychopath as they are devoid of any feelings (like a normal person might have); no love, no hate, no empathy, no remorse. They only see other people as tools or possessions and may even use phrases, like:

You’re mine.
I own you.

And when they are done with you, they have so little regard for you that they might say:

I will end you.
You will be nothing when I’m done with you.

People will no longer believe you

This campaign focused on your destruction need not have any basis in actual fact, as the psychopath will create an alternative universe using a method that transfers the attributes of the psychopath in an effort to discredit the victim so much that anything they might say would not be considered as a factual representation of the truth.

The battleground may include close personal relationships, workplaces and/or media (recently there has been a great deal of growth in social media arenas).

Psychopathy is no respecter of gender. A psychopathic woman conducting a smear campaign might claim that a person perceived as a threat is abusive, twisted, perverted or on the brink of insanity.

Thinking about defending yourself?

If the victim(s) exerts the effort to spend a great deal of effort in defense of their character (i.e., testimony, closed circuit proof, eyewitness accounts, and other relative data), the psychopath will never recount their initial claim. Instead, they will put on additional pressure to even claim that he/she is in fear for his/her life and that the victim is a threat to other men, women and/children or even the future of mankind.

“Don’t even think about daring to mess with me.”

While destroying the life of the victim of such a psychopathic smear campaign, it sends a strong message to witnesses of the event, in effect warning them that they dare not find themselves on the wrong side of such a formidable foe.

Anyone could say things they don’t mean in the heat of the moment.

It is quite ordinary for a normal person to spout ill reports about someone whom they feel has wronged them while in the throes of emotional trauma.

Normal people heal and develop greater understanding from the experience.

In healthy individuals, as time passes and emotional healing takes place, they become much more tolerant of others who have chosen to follow a different path.

Not so for the psychopath. For the psychopath, it is a long-term commitment to bury their prey and sometimes it can be a lifetime obsession.

The appropriate response, when attacked by a psychopathic smear campaign, is not to respond, not to defend, not to react, and not to contact the predator ever again; period, as any response, no matter how negative, threatening or even a lawfully empowered response will only add fuel to the fire that runs the engine of the assailant. Do not ask the psychopath to stop or try to negotiate with him/her.

Without responding, document everything. In regards to the importance of documentation:

Documentation beats conversation.
If it wasn’t documented, it didn’t happen.

Seek legal recourse, venues and protection by law, if at all possible, holding the offender accountable for every word, threat or action as it occurs.

Report everything that happens to your local law enforcement agency. Even if the authorities roll their eyes at you for coming into their office to report and supply them with documentation, yet again, do it anyway. Even those who work in the service against criminals can be conned by the cunning psychopath. Stay the course, document and report everything.

Though you may be tempted to, resist posting information about your psychopathic encounter on social media as this is the devils’ playground. Also note that you should guard against sharing intimate details about your psychopathic encounters with other people because you never know who can be trusted (unless, of course, you know for a fact that the person in question is truly trustworthy). Psychopaths will manipulate those who have your confidence in order to probe you for information that feeds the psychopathic fire and they will be spreading lies about your credibility and/or sanity. Anything you say to them will be twisted and misconstrued to reflect upon you in the worst possible light.

Take away the impact of the psychopath’s abuse by having absolutely no response or contact whatsoever, and they eventually get bored and move onto some other more entertaining prey. The reaction of either the victim or others feeds their need to focus on the destruction of their prey.

Therein lays the rub. As social media becomes more accessible, we see psychopaths moving their smear campaigns to the Internet, which is much more difficult to control and can be a highly effective tool in the destruction of a victim’s character. Although the victim might have the wherewithal to ignore the fictitious ranting of the psychopath, other onlookers, unaware of the deception and those whom are fascinated by dirty laundry and drama, may provide the assailant the attention that they crave.

Reach out to a professional for support. People with no professional frame of reference or exhaustive experience dealing with psychopaths will not understand the true nature of the psychopath, and many professionals have been misled or swindled by psychopaths.

Resources include Domestic Violence workers, organizations, victim support groups, counselors or professionals with expertise in dealing with psychopathic abuse.

David M. Masters is the author of:

Trust Betrayal:

Dealing with breach of trust, healing and learn how to trust again.

&

How to Deal With A Psychopath:

Antisocial Personality Disorder, Psychopath and Sociopath.

http://psychopathvictims.com/psychopath/psychopathic-smear-campaigns

In support of Narcissistic Abuse awareness and recovery:

June 1st is World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD).

Recommended websites for research and recovery:

http://www.wnaad.com/

http://flyingmonkeysdenied.com/

http://www.innerintegration.com/

http://www.drgeorgesimon.com/

https://kimsaeed.com/

https://www.psychopathfree.com/

https://eclecticalu.blogspot.com/

http://www.doctor-ramani.com/

https://micheleleenieves.com/

https://www.thriveafterabuse.com/

Twitter hashtags:

#AbuseByProxy #Adultery #AgainstBullying #BackStabbers #ClusterB #CPTSD #Enablers #FlirtingIsCheating #FlyingMonkeys #Gaslighting #HealingFromCPTSD #IAmEnough #IAmStillStanding #IfMyWoundsWereVisible #Infidelity #MicroAggression #NarcissisticAbuse #Narcissism #Narcissist #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #NarcissisticSupply #Psychopath #PsychopathFree #SmearCampaign #Sociopath #ThrivingAfterNarcissisticAbuse #TwoFaced #WNAAD

In the spotlight - Steven C. Knapp:

In support of Narcissistic Abuse awareness and recovery.

June 1st is World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD).

When Steven C. Knapp, Emmy Award-winning director and producer offered to create this year's Public Service Announcement (PSA) for World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day 2019, I jumped at the opportunity. All you have to do is take a look at Knapp's body of work and it becomes glaringly obvious that he's not just an extremely talented producer, film-maker and advertiser, he is an advocate with a passion for raising awareness and exposing abuse and injustice.

Some of his creative achievements include the very powerful PSA, “What is 13 Campaign?” for End Slavery Tennessee, an anti-sex trafficking organization. And, currently, he is producing a documentary exposing public corruption in the affordable housing industry called, "Non-Renewed".

However, the issue of narcissistic abuse is one that has touched Knapp on a deeply personal level. "For the longest time, until my 20's, I didn't understand how narcissism colored my youth," Knapp said about the realization that his own mother was a narcissist.

"Despite all the research and work I did in my 20's, I eventually found myself with a covertly narcissistic partner; the Hyde came out after our breakup and included the usual narcissistic schemes and tactics: Flying Monkeys, blame shifting, smear campaigns, bread crumbs, emotional manipulation, etc...." Knapp said, explaining the experience of finding himself on the receiving end of a vicious smear campaign. "Unfortunately, lies spread faster than the truth; time and integrity are the right countermeasures," Knapp said.

The ordeal taught Knapp that, "to survive a narcissist you must have a fierce determination and unbreakable persistence to reclaim your identity, reputation, and sanity. The narcissist is not bound to reality, morality, or decency and will paint you in a negative light to whoever they think will believe them. Men and women can be narcissists," Knapp added.

"It's very hard to shake off," Knapp said of the experience. He described feeling "deeply harmed" and that is what inspired his desire to start speaking out about it. "I wanted to speak up about this very hard-to-spot personality to help others observe, identify, and hopefully avoid what I had experienced,” added Knapp.

A native Nashvillian, who grew up watching Nickelodeon, Knapp had always been interested in entertainment. After earning a Bachelor's of Science in Electronic Media from Middle Tennessee State University, he then spent a half-decade in broadcast journalism and went on to start the Emmy Award-winning creative agency/production company, knapptimecreative. "We produce films, advertisements, and content for live events with clients big and small all over the country," Knapp explained.

Now, luckily for the WNAAD movement, Knapp has offered to help raise the profile of narcissistic abuse by using his talent to help give a name to that thing "that people experience and might say to themselves, "that's weird" or "who does that?

"Sometimes people understand there is something going on, but don't quite have a name for it. Giving something a name can be a powerful tool for change. Through conversations, I know I've led people to the concept of NPD and examination of their own circumstances." said Knapp.

https://wnaad.com/spotlight-steven-c-knapp/

6 Secrets The Narcissist Hopes You Never Learn:

by Shahida Arabi

December 1, 2017

We all know that that malignant narcissists (narcissists who also have antisocial traits) are manipulative and can even fool experts, psychiatrists and the most experienced of law enforcement officials. Yet there are six crucial truths about these types of manipulators that can come in handy when it comes to resisting their tactics. Use this information wisely and you can find yourself cutting the cord to a toxic relationship with one that much more safely:

1. They will unmask themselves much more quickly when they think you’re not aware of who they truly are.

Direct confrontation of their narcissism will result in further manipulation and narcissistic rage, which can cause you to remain entrenched in the cycle of abuse.

If you suspect you’re with a narcissist, the better route might be to prepare mentally on how to leave while collecting more information about their character. Watch out for the red flags and when you see them, self-validate without relying on the narcissist’s counter-explanation (which is likely to be filled with a whole lot of gaslighting, projection and half-truths). Their actions and pattern of behavior will tell you far more than their words ever will.

Pretend to be the naïve lamb rather than the wise lion and you’ll get yourself a manipulator who won’t work as hard to conceal their contempt, their malice and their joy at bringing others down. Their mask will slip all the more frequently because they don’t feel as invested in managing their image around you. They will assume you’re gullible enough to believe in their façade, which satisfies their need to feel grandiose and superior to you.

This will also give you the ability to observe their behavior more carefully because it will be less filtered by their attempts to charm you. By the time your abuser has realized that you’ve caught on, you’ll be well on your way out the door. That is why I always recommend that when victims recognize that they are dealing with a narcissistic partner, to never confront them using the term “narcissist.” It will only cause narcissistic rage and backlash that can convince you to retreat.

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“Hell hath no fury or contempt as a narcissist you dare to disagree with, tell they’re wrong, or embarrass… What is really at the core of narcissists is an instability in their ability to feel and sustain feeling bigger, larger, smarter and more successful than everyone else which they need to feel stable.  Narcissistic rage occurs when that core instability is threatened and furthermore threatened to destabilize them even further.”

– Mark Goulston, M.D., Rage – Coming Soon From A Narcissist Near You.

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Rage isn’t the only response narcissists have to your awakening of the truth. In response to your public acknowledgement of their narcissism, some narcissists will work that much harder to groom you and re-idealize you, thus making you more confused about the nature of their true character.

They will do everything possible to punish you or coerce you into staying – including love-bombing you again to make you remember the good times. During the same time they’re throwing in crumbs of affection, they’re also plotting on how to best covet what resources of yours they can get before the relationship is over.

As you prepare your exit as quietly as possible (preferably with the help of a good lawyer and a safety plan) – you have a better chance of departing safely with your sanity and your finances still intact. Sure, they may think you’re a fool for the time being, but once they realize you secretly had the upper hand all along, they’ll be outraged for completely different reasons – namely, due to the loss of control.

2. One of their biggest fears is being caught and held accountable – so always document their abuse whenever possible.

Recently we’ve had a string of predators being exposed for sexual assault and harassment. It is no coincidence that many of these predators finally ‘fessed up because of being held accountable on a much larger scale this time around. Perhaps the cultural climate protected them decades ago, but when a NYTimes exposé shares the stories of numerous victims stepping forward, it’s a lot more difficult to gaslight everyone you’ve victimized into thinking they’re “crazy” or “oversensitive.” Not only do victims have more evidence, they also realize they’re not alone.

You can use this knowledge of a covert predator’s fear of exposure to your advantage. Document all incidents of abuse so that you have it on hand should you ever need to go to court, take legal action, or for the purpose of getting a restraining order.

Narcissists care deeply about their status and reputation, so if they feel they may be exposed as culpable for their crimes, they’ll scurry quickly because they will consider you a “high-risk” victim. They’re paranoid about being caught – so even just dropping a subtle hint that you mean business (for example, noting that you’ve been speaking to someone else about what’s been happening – preferably someone they can’t manipulate) can cause them to flee quicker than you can say “gaslighting.”

On documenting abuse that is not physical, Heather Debreceni, former sheriff and professional divorce coach advises:

“The best way to protect yourself: writing or journaling as much as you possibly can…download your text messages and keep them in a file. Keep your messages brief and factual, and avoid emotion, whatever you do. Emotion can’t be proved in court, but facts can. Some states also allow you to record phone conversations, so you can record threats from your abuser.”

As Debreceni notes, it is important to stay calm yourself whenever reacting to a narcissist’s provocations through text, phone calls or e-mails because the narcissist is also trying to ensure that they also have you on the record – whether they’re trying to depict you as an unfit parent or a crazy ex (while they’re the ones stalking you), remember to always appear stoic and stick to the facts when communicating with them.

Whether it be photographing injuries or stalking behavior, taking screenshots of online messages, recording phone conversations (if permitted by law in your state), saving text messages, and voicemails and/or keeping a journal of abusive incidents, it can all serve you in the future should you ever want to take legal action or even if you just want to reconnect to the reality of what you experienced.

3. Your indifference is their kryptonite.

Forget any type of petty revenge you may be plotting; malignant narcissists see all of your emotional responses to them (whether positive or negative) as attention, and they live for that shit. Instead, refocus on yourself and on rebuilding a better life (not for the narcissist, but for you). It won’t be long until you’re moving forward, kicking some serious ass and thinking less and less of the person who once terrorized you.

If you do you choose to grant them access to your emotional responses, rest assured they will use it to bolster themselves and feed off of your energy. As narcissism expert and author Dr. Martinez-Lewi puts it:

“When we live with a narcissist – mother, father, spouse, sibling or are involved with them, our psychological energy is continually sapped. Some victims of narcissists describe this process as trying to destroy and annihilate them, taking what is most precious inside away with their cruelties, chronic deceptions, hidden agendas, humiliations, threats and ambushes.”

That’s why it’s so important to go No Contact (or Low Contact if co-parenting) to prevent their parasitic ways of feasting on your empathy. By that time, you simply won’t care what they’re up to or who they’re with because you’ll know for a fact that they’re repeating a similar abuse cycle with their newest victim. And ironically, it is in that state of utter indifference that the narcissist becomes most powerless, because they know they are no longer able to control you.

4. They’re not hoping you’ll come back to them so they can give you the good relationship you truly deserve. They hope you’ll come back to them just so they can have the final say and re-traumatize you further.

Narcissists hate being “discarded” first because it represents a loss of power and a threat to their perceived superiority. After all, if you were the one who initiated the breakup, it means they didn’t get to have the complete emotional control they feel entitled to in their relationships. They need to have the last word; they need to feel like they’ve terrorized you to such an extent that you would be unable to move forward after being in a relationship with them.

So that’s why they really come crawling back and ask for a second, third and fiftieth chance. It’s not because they miss you. It’s because they miss feeling like they own you.

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 “When the narcissist senses that you are leaving the relationship, they will try to suck you back in…  This is a common pattern in abusive relationships.  There’s an abusive episode, then a reconciliation phase, then a buildup of tension, then another abusive episode.  The cycle doesn’t end.  With a narcissist, the blowup gets worse each time you reconcile.  And that blowup is coming.”

–  Dr. Stephanie Sarkis, So You’re In A Relationship With A Narcissist, Now What?

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5. You’re not inferior in any way to their other victims or new targets.

Remember that narcissists don’t see their relationship partners as people – they see them as objects, as sources of what psychologists call “narcissistic supply.”

However, they’d like you to believe that the reason they’re picking on you is because you’re more disposable, less than or somehow defective. That’s why they’ll compare you to their exes or their new targets. In order to resist this form of crazymaking triangulation, remember how the narcissist talked about their ex in the beginning of your relationship, in the early stages of idealizing you.

Chances are, they called their ex-partner “crazy” along with a whole other plethora of disparaging narratives – which is what they’re probably now doing to you as they relay their distortions to their latest target.

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Narcissistic supply is the form of exchange that a narcissist will accept from those he is in a relationship with to gratify his insatiable needs; but this supply is not love, because narcissists are rarely capable of receiving love. 

– Shari Stines, Psy.D, Love and the Narcissist.

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They always repeat the cycle with others.  To them, you are no different, even if they’d like you to think otherwise.

6. They’re not really that humble or remorseful – and pity is one of their greatest ploys.

Narcissists project an image of themselves as very charitable and humble human beings in the beginning of every relationship. It’s what makes them so compelling and charismatic to society. It’s what disarms law enforcement and their harem, allowing them to skirt the law with a slap on the wrist and no more than a dent in their reputations.

Even the most hardened police officers can witness an impressive performance of faux remorse from a narcissist they’re meeting for the first time and find themselves thinking, “Aww, how noble.” You look at the same performance after years of being with them and see a snake attempting to put on a furry dog costume.

Don’t get me wrong: some people truly are modest and humble, which can be wonderful traits. Narcissists, on the other hand, use the image of modesty to mask their true haughty interiors. A narcissist who is truly arrogant and contemptuous may hide it well during the first few months of a relationship (though there may be tiny tells through their facial expressions, covert put-downs and so on) but their belief that they are inherently superior will eventually reveal itself.

Another tactic narcissists bank on when manipulating you involves the art of the pity ploy. Narcissists will try to latch onto your sympathy when they see no other recourse or even as a primary tool to sweep you off of your feet.

That’s why they give you half-assed “apologies” without a concrete change in their behaviors or a true acknowledgement of the harm you must have suffered. That’s also why they present you with sob stories from the onset of the relationship so you’re inclined to see them as victims rather than the true perpetrators.

It’s why they these types of manipulators can even be self-deprecating as a way to pull off their “little boy” or “little girl” act. Seemingly defenseless people are always more appealing to our natural compassion, after all – and so their crocodile tears and pity ploys work – and they work really, really well.

Dr. Martha Stout, author of The Sociopath Next Door, notes that an appeal to your sympathy is actually one of the most powerful ways a manipulator with antisocial traits gets away with his or her abusive behavior. As she writes:

“If, instead, you find yourself often pitying someone who consistently hurts you or other people, and who actively campaigns for your sympathy, the chances are close to 100 percent that you are dealing with a sociopath… I am sure that if the devil existed, he would want us to feel very sorry for him.”

In order to be a strategic survivor, you have to be able to recognize a manipulator’s pity ploys immediately and resist, especially when there is no actual change in their harmful behavior when they’re called out.

When you start to see how fake their so-called remorse truly is, you’ll find you have much less sympathy for their excuses for horrendous behavior. This will bring you farther away from your idealized notions of their fabricated conscience and that much closer to forging your freedom from the narcissist.

Shahida Arabi is the author of Power: Surviving and Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse.

https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2017/11/6-secrets-the-narcissist-hopes-you-never-learn/

In support of Narcissistic Abuse awareness and recovery.

June 1st is World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD).

Recommended websites for research and recovery:

http://www.wnaad.com/

http://flyingmonkeysdenied.com/

http://www.innerintegration.com/

http://www.drgeorgesimon.com/

https://kimsaeed.com/

https://www.psychopathfree.com/

https://eclecticalu.blogspot.com/

https://micheleleenieves.com/

https://www.thriveafterabuse.com/

Twitter hashtags:

#AbuseByProxy #Adultery #AgainstBullying #BackStabbers #ClusterB #CPTSD #Enablers #FlirtingIsCheating #FlyingMonkeys #Gaslighting #HealingFromCPTSD #IAmEnough #IAmStillStanding #IfMyWoundsWereVisible #Infidelity #NarcissisticAbuse #Narcissism #Narcissist #NarcissisticPersonalityDisorder #NarcissisticSupply #Psychopath #PsychopathFree #SmearCampaign #Sociopath #ThrivingAfterNarcissisticAbuse #TwoFaced #WNAAD

Why do toxic people bully, shame, and play the intimidation game?

Flying Monkeys Denied is a C-PTSD and Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Website

Friday, January 8, 2016

What is Bullying? “Bullying is conduct that cannot be objectively justified by a reasonable code of conduct, and whose likely or actual cumulative effect is to threaten, undermine, constrain, humiliate or harm another person or their property, reputation, self-esteem, self-confidence or ability to perform.” claims BullyOnline.org, a Narcissistic Abuse recovery website devoted to exposing workplace bullying specifically in all its toxic and hyperextending forms.

People who situationally abuse victims then lie or blame shift while smear campaigning the credibility of victims behave in covert manners for incredibly scary and disheartening reasons. Shame is the name of game toxic people play in order to make themselves feel better at other people’s expense each and every day.

The first reason people situationally abuse is that they are of sound mind and know full well the difference between socially appropriate behaviors and what they say or do. Hiding guilt — rather than proudly proclaiming the truth about their covert actions — is a power play used to dominate and persistently re-traumatize their victims.

Yes.

But those are not the real reason why abusers do nasty or naughty things to children, pets, and other people in secret.

They hide the abuse because they know it is wrong to do. By the time any human is 12, if they are even remotely intelligent and don’t have a physically debilitating mental handicap, they know instinctively the difference between right and wrong.

Kids who have good natures will always strive to do the right thing at the right time for the right reason, introspecting regularly in order to grow their own situational ethics experiential knowledge banks.

Those who are narcissistic and/or who show anti-social personality traits will actively engage in materialistic pursuits, will pitch fits and temper tantrums to upset and embarrass (translation = control) adults, and won’t hesitate to do things like bully or lie to get their selfish and borderline sociopathic ways.

If a person fails to control their temper during family arguments but appears cool as a cucumber when authorities are called, you have the biggest indicator right there that A) their bad behavior is a choice and B) they actively know that what they are doing is morally wrong or in some way illegal. The very real fact that a violent domestic abuser can control themselves in workplace environments around co-workers or clients they are striving to impress means their temper is ALWAYS under control.

Abusive people bully others by verbally attacking them or trying to intimidate them physically when and if they want to feel powerful and choose to assault a target. Then, after doing so, they see nothing wrong with their actions — only something wrong with a victim or traumatized witness who chooses to bring the truth out into the light.

Such victims are socially ostracized by people who are abusive by nature, with the strongest predators leading the victim shaming smear campaigns, telling their lies and gaslighting stories, and invariably striving 24/7 to mislead other people while avoiding responsibility entirely and striving to impress.

People who laugh at victim pain or ridicule scapegoat targets are sadistic by nature. They have low Emotional IQ — meaning no matter how intelligent they are on an academic rubric, when it comes to being a decent human being — if there is a God paying attention they inevitably earn a huge karmic “F”.

People who make up stories about other people to embarrass and socially damage are guilty of being such types — utterly narcissistic and caustic to any social conversation or environment to which they bullish or stalwartly play intercessor.  Their opinions from a subjective standpoint stop having credibility from the first moment they lie with intent to deceive, manipulate, shift blame, or con.

Truly, there may always be more than one side subjectively to a story — but when there are only two people who were present to exchange dialog and one is lying?

Then, you are only left with the truth, the victim’s subjective experience assertion, and a person who knowingly, intentionally lies and manipulates while deliberately manufacturing convenient fictions in an attempt to drive the real victim up a wall with frustration.

Gaslighting is invalidation to the extreme — a conversational and psychological mind control strategy capable of doing everyone involved great harm.

[Note, for the sake of disclosure, the writers of this page tend to measure success by good produced for all rather than one. As such, a narcissistic family who succeeds in “beating” their perceived scapegoat targets and rivals to self-advance are actually spiritually, mentally, and psychologically backsliding down the evolutionary ladder rung by decayed and tarnishing rung.]

Bullying, then, is gaslighting one person into believing they somehow deserve abuse or in any way brought some unfair, unjust, and fundamentally illogical version of great punishment on themselves.

It is being shown by experience that being fat makes you the J-Lo butt of all jokes rather than appreciated and recognized for actual things in life a person can accomplish as an individual of quality.

It’s being picked on for being 6 foot 4, feeling like for some reason you should hunch your shoulders or not wear high heels (if you are a tall girl) for some other reason than you don’t want to bash the top of your head each and every time you walk through a door.

Bullying can be mild or wild, depending on the personality of the antagonist leading the charge. When one person targets another for abuse, it’s called bullying. When they entice others to join in trouncing the victim in the worst of all reckless Tigger-esque pounce-bounce events, it’s called mobbing.

Mobbing bullies are typically led or socially influenced by stronger predators. A church congregation, for instance, like Westboro Baptist Church, may have started out in its infancy as a social collective of people who were seeking community through faith.

If a religious leader had a Cluster B personality disorder or the church leaders exhibit pack-mentality behaviors, then their gaslighting arguments are likely to be based on illogical arguments form a LOGICAL FALLACY in the philosophical debate sense coupled with fear promotion mixed with a twisted variant of Pascal’s Wager thrown in for substance.

People who bully socially en masse like church congregations, ISIS, or the KKK teach their members from the earliest of ages that they are fighting a way of life. They constantly strive to manufacture chaos and upset for other people while striving to make themselves feel better.

Sadly, the fact they must resort to hurting other people to elevate their own emotions is an incontrovertible poker tell that a person is not only narcissistic but that their personality type has an element of reckless and feckless anti-social competitiveness.

What does that mean?

It means when they show their ass, they reveal not only egocentrism but a propensity for sadism.

Bullying, then, as a social coping strategy, is being used to give pleasure to the person doing the tormenting. Nothing more, nothing less.

People who bully strive at all times to destroy others. When they are successful at knocking another person off a trajectory path for success, they feel pleasure.

When human beings feel pleasure — whatever the psychological or physical source — a cascade of positive-feeling emotions rushes through them. Conversely, adrenaline is produced in a hunter, with only toxic “flight or fight” chemicals being flooded through a victim.

As such, when people with Cluster B personalities say something awful to hurt, shame, humiliate, or embarrass a target, really all they are doing is clearly demonstrating they are unable to control their own selfish emotions. They hurt others to physically alleviate boredom as well as to produce in themselves a gushing wave of pleasurable sensations.

That’s why they never see self-sabotage the same way other humans do, narcissistic, borderline, histrionic, or anti-social people. Because they are predatory by nature, their biological impulse leaves them absolutely at the mercy of their own psychology and human biology.

Bullies and the Flying Monkeys who enable or mob attack with them typically are the sort of people with a limited capacity to feel the physical sensation of empathy as an emotion (meaning noun) or as an act involving complex fluidity to emotional conception.

They simply don’t “get” what average or above average people are even referring to when they discuss empathetic behaviors. They don’t get it because it’s how their brain’s physically developed over time due to influences of genetics as well as experiences.

If neural synapses never formed properly according to healthful childhood development, people — meaning brains with bodies — “grow up” stunted. Functional incapacitation of empathy responses that serve to protect humans as a species can be literally and figuratively speaking choked off in the mind of a child forced to endure or witness trauma.

The trauma connection is the key to both readily identifying abusers and abuse victims. It’s also what is likely to be the determining factor in the future of Forensic Psychology.

With technology improving at rapid rates, it has become clear to scientists that some human minds physically — from a physical level, referring solely to biology — have a space in the brain that lights up when people feel or express empathy.

For people biologically incapable of feeling the emotion, the stimulus is applied and nothing happens. Something else curious has been found… and parents of children with Childhood Conduct Disorder or Oppositional Defiant Disorder or adult children of Cluster B narcissistic parents should pay careful attention.

Studies are showing — not subjective studies but literally screen capture versions of machines measuring and photographing brain function — that people who have a thinning of the membrane where feelings of empathy typically manifest on a brain scan both appear to be and report they have less empathy than other people.

Most people with this sort of thinning tend to have NPD — meaning they have been formally or informally diagnosed from a clinical standpoint with Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

These folks are easy to spot bragging about their own lack of care and concern for other people, their ability to manipulate (sales targets especially), and truly are those most readily inclined to spend time actively trolling to cyber bully. The more covert they are about hiding their NPD nature, the more likely they are to use social media and other websites to harm ratherthant support growth and human learning.

They are also the most likely to situationally abuse the taunt victims, saying things like, “Who are they going to believe?” if a victim threatens to tell parents, police, court officials, family, a schoolteacher, a boss, or friends when and if they are a malicious sadist proud of actively having deceived them.

As such, whether you are 9 or 90, the likelihood you will encounter at least 12 or more bullies who pathologically lie, con, situationally abuse, smear campaign to socially destroy rivals for no reason other than to produce self-benefit, or worse are statistically probable.

Over 6% of the human population living on planet Earth as of the year 2015 is reported to meet or exceed diagnostic criteria for having NPD. Another 4% meet or exceed criteria based on the DSM5 publication for having Anti-Social Personality disorder. Another 2% meet criteria for Borderline Personality disorder and so on.

It does not take a Vegas pro gambler to figure out the odds someone you know, hang out with, or have to work with is likely to have a Cluster B personality disorder. People who call other people things like, “Psycho” and “Narcissist” as if it’s some form of heated insult truly make themselves look foolish, uneducated, and spiteful.

Victims all over the world would love to see personality problems like NPD and narcissistic tendencies rooted out wherever and whenever possible. Science finding the defective “alcoholic gene” are on the front line, spearheading the march to help those who cannot help themselves self-regulate find the necessary inner biological peace and piece to internally learn to regulate themselves.

It just takes one smart clinical researcher reading an article such as this to figure out that Narcissism, as a biologically driven impetus, cannot be cured through traditional psychological “talk it out” methods alone. Sorting the wheat from the proverbial chaff is going to be key in the next 100 years of medical advancement.

If machines learn to detect early on with an image scan that a growing child’s brain is failing to make the empathy pathway neural net, simple behavior management strategies and NLP techniques can be applied to a subject to determine if growing the capacity to experience the emotion we call empathy is even a remotely functional possibility.

If it’s not but behavior that is problematic can be re-trained, then children born with a propensity for sadism or egoism may — over the course of their own lifetime even — be empirically saved.

To strive to help decrease the abusive tendencies and/or actions of a toxic person is not offering to forgive them. It’s also not excusing, rationalizing, or justifying their behaviors.

When a dog is bad and bites humans with relish, you chain it, muzzle it, and if it cannot be properly socialized you PUT IT DOWN.

Humans are animals who follow instinctive patterns.

If a person who ended up narcissistic or anti-social because of the environment they were raised in from birth to age 4 was a hostile or unsafe one, regressing them to their earliest state from a hypnotherapy standpoint then working diligently with them to recover memories and re-train their brain may produce a flock of thirty-somethings, forty-somethings, and fifty-somethings running around with adult IQ but the EQ of young and developing children running around… but seriously.

Wouldn’t you rather live in a world filled with hope that the sheer number of humans on the planet who have Cluster B natures due to nurture rather than strict biological impairment could be reduced by practical application of proper parenting and communal socialization than the world Fox News swears on their life we are living in now?

Just asking — because empathetic parents of children born with NPD, BPD, ASPD, or HSP natures and adult children of alcoholics, drug users, sex addicts, and Narcissists are struggling on the front lines, trying to save their toxic adult children from themselves.

The plight has nothing whatsoever to do with co-dependency or enabling in such cases.

Why do people bully or abuse in secret?

Because it truly is a bizarre and unsoothable cry they collectively make while attention-seeking. Perfectly happy the way they are, their life plan is to continue to willfully harm others. Imagine their surprise if it came to their attention they were a much better “fix”.

Truly, the rush of feeling like you are a part of something loving, wonderful, and bigger than yourself is an emotion Narcissists and most psychologically traumatized people seldom if ever have the emotional capacity to experience.

Empaths understand (which is why we keep striving to problem solve on their behalf). It’s not a co-dependent thing… showing mercy. It’s also not a co-dependent thing to want success for yourself simultaneously with others.

The human mind is like a computer. You might be a bully if you have defective hardware or software.

For that reason, before you name call and bully in a baiting, provoking, or antagonistic (non-compassionate) way, consider using academic psychiatric terms to describe the behaviors you witness, go gray rock while depersonalizing attacks, and figure out a way to HELP.

The human mind is like a computer. You might be a bully if you have defective hardware or software.

Plato's Stunt Double

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In support of Narcissistic Abuse awareness and recovery.

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http://www.drgeorgesimon.com/

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https://eclecticalu.blogspot.com/

https://micheleleenieves.com/

https://www.thriveafterabuse.com/

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On this day in movie history - Easy Money (2000):

Easy Money,

French title: Argent content,

directed by Philippe Dussol,

was released in France on May 31, 2001.
18-minute short movie, filmed in color and black and white.
Written by Philippe Dussol and Mathias Pothier.

Cast:

Anne Charrier, Fred Dussol, Philippe Dussol.

Born on this day – Nicole Van Goethem:

Nicole Van Goethem

Animator

Illustrator

Writer

Director

May 31, 1941 - March 3, 2000

Credits:

Awarded the Oscar for Best Animated Short Film, at the 59th Academy Awards in 1987,

for her movie: A Greek Tragedy (1985).

Book:

Drawing the Film (1988).

Movies and television:

A Greek Tragedy (1985); B.C. Rock (1980); Human Rights Article 13 (1988); John the Fearless (1984); Tarzoon: Shame of the Jungle (1975); Trouble in Paradise (1989); Verloren maandag (1974); Vol van gratie (1987).

Born on this day – Rainer Werner Fassbinder:

Rainer Werner Fassbinder

Director

Actor

Composer

Writer

May 31, 1945 – June 10, 1982

Credits:

Querelle (1982); Veronika Voss (1982); Theater in Trance (1981); Lola (1981); Lili Marleen (1981); Berlin Alexanderplatz (1980); The Third Generation (1979); The Marriage of Maria Braun (1979); In a Year with 13 Moons (1978); Despair (1978); Deutschland im Herbst (1978); The Stationmaster's Wife (1977); Women in New York (1977); Chinese Roulette (1976); Satan's Brew (1976); I Only Want You to Love Me (1976); Fear of Fear (1975); Mother Kusters Goes to Heaven (1975); Fox and His Friends (1975); Like a Bird on a Wire (1975); Effi Briest (1974); Martha (1974); Ali: Fear Eats the Soul (1974); Nora Helmer (1974); World on a Wire (1973); Eight Hours Don't Make a Day (1972–1973); Jail Bait (1972); Bremen Freedom (1972); The Bitter Tears of Petra von Kant (1972); The Merchant of Four Seasons (1972); Beware of a Holy Whore (1971); Whity (1971); Pioneers in Ingolstadt (1971); Rio das Mortes (1971); The Niklashausen Journey (1970); The American Soldier (1970); Warum läuft Herr R. Amok (1970); Das Kaffeehaus (1970); Gods of the Plague (1970); Katzelmacher (1969); Love Is Colder Than Death (1969); The Little Chaos (1967); This Night (1966); The City Tramp (1966).