November 16, 2015
Flying Monkeys Denied is a C-PTSD and
Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Website
People
who have narcissistic personalities constantly blame-shift while striving to
further embarrass, upset, inconvenience, or humiliate their victims. They could
care less about other people’s feelings except they seem to delight in knowing
trigger issues in order to exploit them. Pretending they are a puppet master
who excels at pulling people’s strings. “Dance, puppet… dance!” is all you
should hear no matter what they are saying when you sense they are on the hunt
for a narcissistic supply source to torture in order to eliminate their own
stress by acting sadistically towards others in an attempt to
stimulate their own pleasure centers while alleviating boredom.
Psychology
Today calls Narcissistic people “Social Puppeteers”. The website notes, “At
some point in our lives we have all been taken advantage of emotionally,
physically, psychologically, or perhaps even financially. These events are
painful, even devastating, and fortunately, for most of us, these encounters
are infrequent. Sometimes there are relationships that unfortunately last far
too long for our own well-being, where we are repeatedly taken advantage of and
made to feel as if we are mere puppets – controlled and manipulated.”
People
who tolerate Narcissistic Abuse like covert manipulation, domestic violence, or
the social, emotional, and financial abuse of a target, are not being virtuous.
They are not acting as proper role models. What they are is guilty of enabling
and vicariously deriving pleasure from aiding in the sadistic torment of people
being victimized by an intolerant and ultimately self-centered and bullish,
intimidating aggressor.
They
are guilty of #Mobbing. And schoolyard bullying.
[No
schoolyard necessary.]
And
by pop culture inspired psychiatric definition they willingly sign up to join
the Flying Monkey Army of the Circus Monkey ring leader.
About
narcissistic and/or toxic personality types, Psychology Today also has this to
say:
The self-centered, self-absorbed narcissist needs an
adoring audience to fawn over them – ever pliant. There is no shortage of these
individuals, including those who will fall for them and whatever it is they are
peddling. Whether it is a new way of doing business (think Enron), a new
religion (think Jonestown, Guyana), or a superior empire (Third Reich). The
self-centered/narcissistic personality needs a willing audience to manipulate,
no matter how small, so long as they are blindly obedient and deferential. As
such, the narcissist often chooses a profession, guild, organization,
occupation, or a job where he or she can manipulate others or the system like a
puppeteer. Through their words and actions, intended to impress and seduce,
they control lives, thoughts, and perceptions to achieve their objective.
There
is no truth other than Narcissism as an identified disorder. Narcissistic
people learn to imitate emotion and copycat lifestyle habits, nothing more.
Persistently lost in their own drive to sate selfish and impulsive desires, the
card-carrying Narcissist or Narcopath can do nothing other than pretend to be
something they are fundamentally not — namely speaking, emotionally
intelligent.
No
matter how old a Narcissistic person gets, they act with the common sense logic
of a tantruming toddler. People who have Borderline Personality Disorder are
guilty of pitching the most routine fits for attention, but Narcissists… man.
When they imagine someone has deliberately done something to offend or
inconvenience them, the “Narcissistic Injury” they perceive from the imaginary
(or real) offense is always a stage five nuclear family disaster.
Collateral
damage victims will all be harmed by a Narcissistic Rage attack. Children who
witness their parent’s language choices and see bad behavior learn how to
emotionally respond or react with a sense of entitlement (if they are domineering)
or how to avoid wrath by enabling (if they are more passive-aggressive or
self-centered).
One
thing is common to all people with Covert Narcissist or situationally abusive
temperaments…
Whether
they have mild or extreme Cluster B personality disorder symptoms, all behave
egocentrically with a pervasive sense of “Entitlement” — thinking that
interfering in other people’s lives or manipulating for personal gain at the
expense of others is in some way something they are entitled to do without any
moral, social, or emotional culpability.
Don’t
give in to their compulsive attention seeking. Go gray rock and no contact as
soon as you recognize the red flags and warning signs that a person has a toxic
personality. Cut the psychic manipulation cords the Puppet Master has cleverly
engineers to bind your mind, body, and soul to them by allowing yourself
permission to detach, heal, and grieve the loss of the person they pretended to
be when you first met them (if your abuser is or was a romantic partner) or forgive
them in general for having a toxic personality disorder if and when they are an
unavoidable boss, co-worker, neighbor, or family member.
Depersonalizing
abuse while reading daily reminders about mind control, brainwashing, C-PSTD
recovery, and warning signs can help Narcissistic Abuse victims learn how to
spot dangerous, manipulative, or controlling people. Education about
personality disorder symptoms is key to learning how to compartmentalize social
and emotional events in their proper context.
If
you have been manipulated by a Narcissist or any person who exhibits
anti-social or abusive traits, stop beating yourself up for it. At the time you
got involved, you more than likely had no idea what you were in for getting
involved with a person who had all the charisma and fascinating dysfunction in
the world to rescue.
Now
that you know better, choose to make different decisions.
Setting
healthy boundaries about the kind of people you wish to allow into your home
and the sort of personalities that you prefer to surround yourself with is not
acting like a holier-than-thou prince or princess. It’s prudent.
Ain’t
nobody in the 21st century got time to be dealing with a covert or overt
Narcissist — or any of their mind-numbing circular arguments that waste colossal
amounts of time and energy. Spending any social or emotional time whatsoever
indulging a Narcissist’s need for attention gets participants only one thing…
Victimized
FAST.
In
support of Narcissistic Abuse awareness and recovery.
June 1st is World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day (WNAAD).
Recommended websites for research and recovery:
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